G0ys are gay men who believe that anal sex is against nature and do not think that gay sex should be associated with anal sex. Instead they engage in frottage or rubbing their dicks together until they cum. They believe anal sex is degrading and against morality. G0ys also promote a traditional idea of masculinity and are angered at the wider gay community that embraces gender-bending, drag queens, and transgender men and women. They believe the gay community should have no connection to these other groups. They are strong in their opinion and try to convert others to this way of thinking (think evangelical churches).
This fascinates me on many levels. First of all I love language and how various groups come up with terms to label themselves. The zero in guy is meant to work as a "no" symbol, like a no-smoking sign. No to anal sex! One site even had this flower-like object inside the zero, which I'm guessing was meant to be an anus. Secondly I'm always intrigued by minorities within minorities and the battle that takes places. This is common to various minority groups and the gays are no different. Thirdly the idea of masculinity and how it changes and morphs over time never ceases to amaze me.
I am a firm believer that femininity should not be considered the same as gay. The media has a done a great job of convincing the world that all gay men truly want to be women. This is not true. What people don't get is that gay men love men. They love being men and being with men. Why would they want to be women? Perhaps you could blame this on the fact that we do embrace transgendered people, but that seems like a small price to pay for including and supporting a very misunderstood group of people. On the same notion there is nothing wrong with gay men who are more "feminine," but it should not define the whole community. I am on the more feminine side (not a full out flamer, but I fit some stereotypes), but I'm very attracted to all kinds of men including very stereotypically masculine ones. This is one reason I love going to places like the Parliament House. There is a huge mix of men and I love seeing all the varieties of the gay community in one space.
This brings me to what greatly upsets me about g0ys. They're about separation and not unity. The thing I love about the gay community is that sense of belonging. That doesn't mean I'm like all the people in the gay community, but we do share the experience of living on the fringe of society, of not being understood, and of needing support. I love drag queens. Do I want to be a drag queen? No. I'm intrigued and am always wanting to learn more about transgendered men and women, but I am not transgendered. I'm turned on by leather daddies. Will I become one? Well...maybe I will, though I don't buy leather (it kills animals), so I'll have to find something else. Regardless I relate and respect each part of the gay community.
G0ys seem to be dealing with this very narrow vision of masculinity and are associating the idea of having and enjoying anal sex with something inferior, which isn't new. Men have been doing this for centuries, but it's sad that a group of men who accept being gay think this. Morality also seems to be an issue here. They are saying it is more moral to rub your dick on another guy's dick than to have anal sex. This notion is ridiculous and absurd. Have sex any way you want but please don't use morality to justify your intolerance and uncomfortableness. I don't care if you have anal sex. In fact what you enjoy sexually is completely up to you, but you can't judge someone else for what they enjoy and find pleasure in. I can't understand why part of a minority that is attacked for these same reasons would then turn around and attack another part of the same group.
Not engaging in anal sex does not make you more of a man. These ideas of what is masculine and feminine are outdated and this is one reason I embrace the gay community. The wider gay community has realized that gender is a construct. It is an illusion. We are human beings, not just men and women.
I plan to do more thinking and reading about g0ys because I want to understand this perspective and how it is rooted in history. Nothing gets me going more than digging around in gay history. I think a poem might even come of this. Bet you can't wait!